Okay, so, when the job search is going more poorly than expected...when the wife cannot get a moment's sleep and still works all day...when the finances dangerously approach the zero mark... when the baby looks at you with tears in her eyes, it's kind of hard to feel heroic, even through escapism. Well, if you think that's a bummer of a feeling regularly, try waking up to just that reality after having had a lengthy dream about ice blasting illegal u-turners with my fists. Ugh! If only that were a job on Monster.
Monday, January 28, 2008
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Being heroic is doing what you're doing. It's enduring what is hard for the sake of something better, or in this case, the promise of it. Some people have it easy and never go through the hardships that others see. And everyone has their own personal trials to face. I had Sam in a full body cast at the age of 2 and all the guilt that came with it since he broke his leg while I was playing with him. Eric had his life uprooted and his home decimated with a hurricane that left scars still visible today.
This, unfortunately, is one of those life challenges that nobody predicts but once and a while always swoops in and hits you like a bus. Heroes aren't guys in tights with million dollar mansions. Heroes are guys who get up after being hit by the bus and keep limping along. It
s painful, and emotionally devestating at times, but being a good father, supportive husband, and giving yourself some credit and maintaining a good outlook are what's important.
An Admiral on the program I work on once said that everybody has problems, everybody falls down. What distinguishes the best is the ability to get up, shake it off, and deal with the mess. You're doing that.
It's OK to feel down, but don't let it stop you. In this, like Sam's cast and Eric's house, you really don't have any other options. You're gonna keep at it, you're gonna struggle, you're gonna succeed. It's not an easy road, but you'll get there.
We are here for you man. Call if you need to talk. Anytime.
Also realize that a little "game time" can be a healthy outlet during stressful circumstances. Getting together with buddies, even in a virtual sense, and having fun for an evening is time well spent.
That said, if you need to focus on other things for a while to balance out things in your life, I completely understand. Figure out what you need to do and just let us know. I'm sure Eric and I will support anything you decide.
Thank you. I know it might sound trite given that it's written in a blog or given the fact that we don't get to TALK, TALK with our babies around...but thise really made me feel better.
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